Something to consider about defining marriage

We can debate about religion, etymology, and the legal definition of marriage all day, but there is one thing that no one has considered. How does one consummate a marriage? Unless it is a man and a woman, it is impossible. To consummate means to consume through mating. Every state in the union can annul any “legal” marriage as never happening if it was never consummated. The physical act is what seals the one flesh relationship making it a marriage of two people. Biblically speaking, in Genesis 29 Jacob had a wedding with Rachel, but unknowingly slept with her older sister Leah. When he woke up in the morning he was married to Leah. This is why Paul compares sleeping with a prostitute as a marriage in 1 Corinthians 6. That being said, the meaning of matrimony literally means one matron or woman. The word mate is derived from the Greek biological word gamete, which means a fertilized egg cell. Monogamy literally means a relationship between one man and woman where a gamete or children are produced. No matter how you cut it, there is nothing biologically, historically, etymolically, physically, or Biblically that defines marriage or supports the redefining of marriage as being anything other than one man and one woman. The very term adultery means to pollutute or contaminate a marriage. With these facts, redefining marriage because someone says so is as achievable as someone announcing that they are a dog and no longer human. Impossible without having a reprobate mind.

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Dr. Michael Williams

Dr. Michael Williams is a pastor, author, Christian educator and Biblical counselor who has served in ministry since March of 2000. Dr. Mike holds under-graduate through post graduate degrees in Christian Education. Dr. Mike is the Senior Pastor of Selah Mountain Ministries, which he founded in March of 2010 in Albuquerque, New Mexico, USA ( In addition to counseling, he teaches how to overcome life issues Biblically on topics such as anger management, marriage, addictions, and other subjects typically referred to as mental illnesses. Dr. Mike lives with his wife Pamela Rose and adult daughter Hollie Rose. He and Pamela have other adult children and several grandchildren as well. Visit the About page to learn more about Dr. Mike.